Below are three truths I’ve learned and tried my best to embody over the past couple of years. They’re ideas that resonated with me enough that I was motivated to save them and write them down and never forget them because they’re so helpful. Hopefully they can help you too.
There is nothing to fear.
Unconditional love is the highest vibration, the ultimate state of being. Its opposite is fear. Anxiety, nervousness, shame, regret, worry, doubt, these are all variations of fear, and they are all creations of the mind. Negative thoughts of the past and future generate these fear-based emotional states. If we can recognize when we’re having these thoughts and firmly root ourselves in the present moment, which is always perfect, none of these emotional states can exist.
When we understand who and what we are (eternal energetic beings temporarily immersed in physical reality), what this realm is (a grand illusion arising from the mind), and how it works (on frequency and vibration), then we can understand that there is truly nothing at all to fear, especially not death, which is the foundational fear of most fear-based states. And when we rid ourselves of all fear, there is a big void that can be filled with unconditional love for all things, for all seeming others. Unconditional love for every aspect of ourselves, especially the aspects our minds deem negative, and unconditional love for every aspect of everything we’ve ever experienced, especially the experiences our minds deem negative.
Obviously a fearless state of unconditional love is the end goal and simply knowing this does not mean we are immediately enlightened and never experience any fear-based emotions again. I experience fear many times every single day even though I understand all of what I’m saying on a deep level. But I no longer dwell in fear. I recognize when it pops up, and the title to this section, repeated a few times to myself immediately brings me out of whatever fear-based state my silly mind created. “There is nothing to fear. There is nothing to fear. There is nothing to fear.”
And in time, I know those fear-based states will get tired of losing so much that it won’t even be worth their effort, so they’ll just stop popping up. Like cockroaches who avoid brightly lit areas.
Life will meet your level of genuine audacity.
This applies to risk taking, and is related to the fearless state. If you had no fear, what would you most like to do in your life? How fucking audacious would you be?
Life has this funny way of mirroring your audacity. That crazy, wild thing that you thought you could do, but no one else believed you could? You tried it and it worked, didn’t it? Do you think that was luck? No man, that was all you.
The only limitation is how authentic your audacity is. Which is to say, how deeply you believe you can do the thing. You can be audacious and say “Oh yeah I can do that thing, watch me!” But if you don’t believe you can do it, like really really believe it, then life is going to say, “Oh, he’s not serious about it,” and it probably won’t work out. But in the end, it’s all about you and what you can make yourself believe. How genuine your audacity is.
When I embark on audacious endeavors, the title of this section brings me faith and comfort, and I’ll often repeat it, and know that it’s true.
What you resist persists.
This applies to everything from emotions to undesirable life situations to communicating with others.
That negative emotion, let’s say anxiety, that’s been plaguing you all day. You feel it, you hate it, you resist it. “I don’t want to feel this, this is horrible.” And you repress it and try not to feel it. I wish someone had taught this to me as a young child because I could have avoided a lot of unnecessary pain in my life, but if you turn the light of your consciousness on that anxiety and say, “I see you there, it’s okay, express yourself fully,” and then allow yourself to feel it fully and deeply, as uncomfortable as it might be, just feel it all, express it, feel your body constrict, let yourself cry, scream, whatever, then you’ll notice that it just goes away. It just wanted to be seen, but you haven’t let it be seen. Once you learn to do this with all other fear-based emotional states, you’ll notice that they start to flow through you and you don’t get stuck in them. Your mind, body, and spirit literally open up and allow the energy to flow properly, and all things improve. Life can flow.
The same is true of undesirable life experiences. If you accept the situation and stop resisting it, let it express itself, and this is important – feel deep, genuine gratitude for the lessons it has brought – then it will resolve itself perhaps more quickly than you could have imagined, and often without any effort on your part. It just wanted to be seen. “I have lessons for you! Will you please accept and learn them?” Your resistance to them has given them power and made them grow because they have these important lessons you need to learn. And these situations will continue to gain strength (worsen) until you finally accept them and learn the lessons embedded in them. Once you do, you can move onto new lessons.
It’s perhaps less important, yet elucidating, because it’s so clear when communicating with others that resistance gives energy to the conflict. If someone is trying to persuade you of something and you keep resisting and arguing back, it will continue to escalate until one of the parties stops resisting. “You could be right” will end most arguments. “Well I’ve learned something new, thanks for your viewpoint, I appreciate it.” Can you imagine someone continuing to argue heatedly with you after you say something like that? It’s not really possible because you’ve pulled all of the energy out of the conflict.
In the same way, when your anxiety is escalating escalating escalating and you’re like, “Ok, go ahead, express yourself,” and you deeply feel it and accept it, it can’t keep arguing with you, so to speak. It has no energy left, because your resistance was what it was feeding off of.
There is obviously nuance here, and it’s difficult to put into words this profound idea of dropping resistance, but hopefully some of that makes sense. It’s one of the most important truths I’ve learned in recent memory.
More to come, but these are the three I first saw when I looked down at the various note cards on my desk this morning. I regard them as Truth, and I hope they’re helpful.
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